What does worth mean to you? What are you worth to
you? Do you know? Have you ever even stopped to entertain that question? I
mean, sure we have comments and opinions when we see other women subject
themselves to sub par treatment of men. Or we turn our faces up in disgust when
we see or read about women doing things and just acting all kinds of way for
the sake of attention. But let’s turn the attention to ourselves. Mind if we
step into the spotlight for a bit?
Here’s the thing, many women, myself included,
actually hesitate and cringe a little when we ponder on the thoughts of our own
worth. We can talk a good game and put on a good show, giving the “impression”
that we’re worth everything and that we are a queen and should be treated as
such. But are we really that queen? Are we really what we project ourselves to
be?
Because you see, no one hears and know those haunting thoughts in our
minds, those inward conversations we have with ourselves that goes something
like this, “Who would ever want me? I’ve
been used up by everybody.” Or “Please
don’t let this be the case again…where he just gets up and leave.” Or “I’m worthless. I mean look at me…I’m thirty
something and still single!” Or “Who
could ever want me, single with kids?” Or “If they ever found out all my mess, no one would ever want me.” And
it doesn’t stop there. That thinking usually shows up in what we attract and the
way we allow ourselves to be treated. Degradation. Disrespect. Ill treatment. Sound familiar? I’m sure we can all relate to
something.
Our thoughts of ourselves are the most powerful above
anybody else’s. How we see ourselves and how we think of ourselves gives off
vibes. We tend to attract what we give off. I will use myself as an example
(the best example).
On the outside, I walked with my head held high and was “seemingly”
well put together. On the inside though, I was barely able to crawl. I projected
something that was so far from the truth. Especially around men, I gave off an
impression that I knew what I was worth and Miss Independent.
But here’s the catch, I always wondered why I
attracted a certain type of man (pause!
the law of attraction is true y’all. You
attract what you give off. A good hunter always recognizes a weak prey,
remember that). The kind who didn’t mind tipping out on his wife. The kind
who just wanted a night of fun and then be off. The kind who would wine and
dine only for the sole objective of getting what they wanted. I truly thought I
was running the show. Oh how I lied to myself. Over and over again. I lived
this lie for years. I handed my heart to whomever paid attention to me. But
even after a while, that wasn’t enough. I desperately pursued men to validate
my worth.
The truth is I had no clue what I was worth. As a
human. As a woman. And especially as a daughter of God. It was years before I allowed God to heal me
and restore my thinking and the way I saw myself, through His perspective and not mine.
Ladies, we are treasures to God! But in order to know
that, we must confront the lies we’ve either told ourselves or the ones we’ve
accepted from others. Our worth is NOT wrapped up in a relationship with a man.
It is NOT
displayed in how well we dress. Or how much make-up we wear. A home. Nice car.
Great job. I can go on but I think you get my drift. Not even being married and
having children validate our worth. Our worth is in who God is. Our worth comes
from not conforming to the standards of this world, but renewing our minds and
learning who God created us to be (Romans 12:2). A woman’s worth in the eyes of
God comes not only by entering into a relationship with Christ, but allowing
His words to saturate our brokenness. We are God’s masterpiece, His workmanship
(Ephesians 2:10).
I won’t lie, it takes a great deal of cooperation
with the Holy Spirit and ourselves to transform the way we see ourselves. We
are invaluable. We are worth so much that God was willing to sacrifice His only
begotten Son for our sake (John 3:16).
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